“Until you bring what is unconscious to consciousness, it will rule your life and you will call it fate.”

- Carl Jung

Mary Graydon, a professional counselor based in Kelowna, providing compassionate therapy and support

Specialized Support for Trauma, Addiction, and Couples. I offer Internal Family Systems, EMDR, Psychedelic-assisted Psychotherapy, and Gottman Method couples counselling. As well I am qualified to provide Clinical Supervision to therapists to support their professional growth and development.

Not currently accepting new clients

Trauma. I treat trauma – childhood, shock (eg. accidents, medical) and relational (eg. betrayal, bullying). Utilizing Internal Family Systems (IFS), Eye Movement and Desensitizing Reprocessing (EMDR) and Psychedelic-assisted Psychotherapy (PAT), I help clients access and heal the origins of emotional distress. These models are experiential, not “talk therapy”.

I work with any adults, ages 21 and up. However, I also specialize in treating those suffering from alcoholism and addiction, their family members and adult children of alcoholics. Often, people impacted by addiction – their own or someone else’s – carry the heavy burdens of shame, anxiety, low self-esteem and other extremely painful legacies.

If you are ready to dive deeply into the roots of your distress, IFS, EMDR or PAT may be a fit for you.

Psychedelic-assisted Therapy. Psychedelic-assisted therapy is gaining attention as a possible option for treating a range of conditions including PTSD, treatment resistant depression, and end-of-life distress. The science is promising; for some people, psychedelic assisted therapy offers a new means to heal trauma and break free of troubling thinking and behavioural patterns.

My services include psychedelic therapy consultation, facilitation and integration within a harm-reduction context. Note: I do NOT provide medicinal substances.

Gottman Method Couples Counselling. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based model of couples counselling, based on decades of relationship research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. It is used world wide to support couples’ communication and conflict resolution skills. I am certified in Levels 1 and 2 Gottman Method counselling, and have used it for over 10 years to help couples improve their relationships.

Clinical Supervision. I work with therapists and mental health practitioners to support personal and professional growth. If you are a counsellor who wants to build on your existing clinical skills, contact me for a free consult.

I offer services to clients in Lake Country, Vernon and Kelowna from my Lake Country office. I commit to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to explore your life from the inside out. I can help you untangle life’s knots by bringing unconscious thoughts and emotions to the surface so you can access your own deep healing and wisdom.

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“We are all just walking each other home.”

– Ram Dass

“Together we are all on a journey called life. We are a little broken and a little shattered inside. Each one of us is aspiring to make it to the end. None is deprived of pain here and we have all suffered in our own lives. I think our journey is all about healing ourselves and healing each other in our own special ways. Let’s just help each other put all those pieces back together and make it to the end more beautifully. Let us help each other survive.”

– Ram Dass

“I was drawn to Mary because she is familiar with the principles of recovery, which resonated deeply with me. I was thrilled to discover I found much more than just an EMDR therapist. Mary is kind, relatable and insightful. I have seen many therapists over the years, and I feel the sessions with her have provided the most tangible results.”

-M.